O you who have believed, do not ask about things which, if they are shown to you, will distress you. But if you ask about them while the Qur’an is being revealed, they will be shown to you. Allah has pardoned that which is past; and Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing. [QS 5:101]
Don’t ask about stuff if you don’t like the answer.
Like you’re mentally not prepared for one of the 2 answers.
Only ask about things when you are genuinely seeking an answer, not legitimization.
you’re not looking to make something haram.
you’re not looking to make something halal.
You’re genuinely seeking what the right course of action is.
So it’s not about the question.
Two people could be asking exactly the same question, but the attitude with which they come at the question.
One person asks, “i want to know if this is halal or not because if i find out it is not permissible i won’t do.
That’s all i want to know. I have no vested interest. I’m not hung up on this thing.
If Allah says it’s no good for me, if His Messenger says it’s no good for me, that’s good enough for me that it’s no good for me.”
Another person says, “Well I kind of having a feeling that it is haram. It also seems like it would be.
But, if I could just get somebody to say that there is some scholar, some difference of opinion,
some obscure text in some line in some book in some library somewhere that MAYBE possibly suggest that this could be OK, then I can do it.
Because I can lean on them”
That’s not you asking a question. That’s you looking for a way out for yourself.
Allah says, don’t engage in this behavior. It doesn’t matter what the question is.
The issue here is of your attitude.
We have to fix our attitudes. The intentions, the motives behind our questions.
There’s nothing wrong with asking a question.
There is something wrong, however, with not accepting the answer if it is not to your original liking or your original expectation.
If we really call this religion Islam, which means to submit, well, here is a good test of submission, isn’t it?
To get an answer you didn’t want to hear and actually, ACTUALLY submit.
If you are convinced, obviously that’s the other thing.
If you are actually convince the answer is from Islam, and arguments are rooted in genuine scholarship,
it is undeniable that it’s XYZ is specifically halal or specifically haram, then you have to go with it.
That what submission means.
Submission is not that you negotiate and debate, and you go back and forth until you wiggle your way out and just do what you wanted to do all along anyway.
May Allah not make us of the people that ask questions with the wrong intentions or with the wrong attitude.
And may Allah make us of those that ask questions as a way of seeking the right answer and give us the moral strength and the courage to be able to live by those answers.